Negativity in TTC

So AF showed up finally last week, which was a great feeling since I already knew I wasn't knocked up!!  I wanted my fresh start and it's finally here, and I'm excited to start again!

I can understand why people get frustrated when they have been TTC for a long time, but I really don't understand when people become bitter when people around them get pregnant.  Everyone has a different experience and journey, including different struggles, and the fact that you think they had an easier time and become bitter about it is just putting more negativity in your own life.  It doesn't affect your fertility (like some people say), but it definitely affects your mental well-being and how you feel about yourself, your situation and the world around you.  Who wants to only see everything that is negative in your life and world?  Not me.

This is only our 3rd cycle trying (and that first cycle wasn't really an all-in try!), and I am neither disappointed or frustrated when I get AF or a BFN.  I'm having fun with the excitement of what could happen before, during and after my fertile "window".  The anxiety I feel is good anxiety,  filled with all of the "what if's" TTC brings.  If it takes me 3 months, or 6 months or a year to get pregnant, I'm still going to go into each cycle excited and hopeful.  If I have trouble TTC, I would then explore other options, but never give up hope.  There is always a way to have a child in the end.

I have tried to post on boards related to TTC, but even though there is great community in some, and definitely great advice and tips, the negativity really got to me.  People often posted about how they saw a ultrasound picture, or a belly picture, or a baby picture on their Facebook and "couldn't handle it".   It ruined their day, and they felt bitter towards whoever was experiencing such joy in their life.

I understand a lot of people have a hard time TTC, and go through different procedures and are desperate to have a child, but other people's ease with getting pregnant is not something that should affect you that much.

I have scaled back on boards about TTC drastically, because I thought it would be filled with the joyful and excitement that I (and others!) experience when TTC, but I got the complete opposite.  For my own sanity and to keep my judgments at bay, I will stick with this blog, talking to friends and my husband while on my own personal journey....no matter how easy or hard it will be in the end.